Who is responsible for your thoughts, health, and life? Who is controlling your behavior and actions? Who is choosing your friends and relationships?
The answer is ONLY YOU!
“You can’t become jealous if you maintain high self esteem.
If you begin to feel jealous or envious of others, do not try to control, manipulate, or negotiate with them to appease these feelings. That is a childish and ineffective approach. You will only encourage people to lie to you and hide things from you so they can avoid having to deal with your “Poor me… I’m not good enough… make me feel better about myself” script.
Instead, focus on setting and achieving your own goals. Start with the basics such as simple physical goals (like specific exercise targets) to restore a sense of self control, and then gradually build towards self mastery. Rebuild your sense of self-worth and confidence by asserting control over how you use your time and how you maintain your space. Restore order, cleanliness, and neatness to your home, your workplace, and your body. Create an environment that reinforces the belief that you’re in control and that you’re responsible.
The belief that you are not enough will simply attract proof of such. Prove to yourself that you are enough, not by seeking validation from others but by creating the evidence for yourself. Strive each day to grow towards your potential. If you do that, then others will tend to respect you more, and other high self esteem people will want to connect with you. Hence you will seldom have cause to feel jealous or alone; you will graduate from this problem and move on to more interesting challenges.”
~ Steve Pavlina
Happy time in San Francisco. Before and After Photoshop.